u/Hefty_Feeling_6101

I was wondering if any of you had experienced bad mental health through the pregnancy, my pregnancy journey been very different, full of action and drama, even before my pregnancy I would have panic attacks every month and I would go to emergencies, I suffered a lot from anxiety and overthinking .. I was in long distance with my bf (who is my husband now) when he supported the idea of moving to a country to follow my career and where I didn't know anyone, adding on the top of it, had to deal with my toxic manager who wanted to fire me in my first trimester because of my sickness and cut my salary (country in EU).. My husband and I got married and got pregnant while being on long distance marriage, had to wait for some couple of months to be able to move with him (due to visa procedures).. The first trimester for me been really traumatizing, i had severe sickness HG, I was by myself, my husband been away (he would travel once per month to see me), I have spent first 5 months by myself and it was so painful.. I feel now i don't have energy to cook or do any house chores, I don't take care of myself when it comes to taking shower or wearing nice clothes as I used to be..plus work deadlines before my maternity leave is something else, another level. we are by ourselves no family around to support, or travel to help (far and visa issues)... I am emotionally drained, people get surprised when they know we haven't bought anything yet for the baby, we haven't prepared for this... my husband works 40 hours and the weekend for us, is just chilling or doing home chores, i even hired a housekeeper who would come once per week to help but still..

Another thing, we haven't shared this pregnancy news with everyone as these first months been really mentally and physically hard for both of us, I have shared it with a friend and her reaction was, congrats but you should have waited because u are newly married, we were planning a party to celebrate our marriage but because what am experiencing it is not realistic to prioritise that, am scared of people opinions on, and my decisions.. and hoping i won't lose friendships just because of that..

My husband and I got also married (2 months after the engagement) because we want to be together and close the distance and I feel every time I have to explain myself to people especially if you come from a culture where they prioritize traditions over your own decisions, My best friend when i told her we are planning to get married just by ourselves in the city hall and we will host a party back home, her answer "oh okay!" not even congrats... am sad really ...

I am mourning my old self, I gained 20 kgs so far, I spend all day at home, since am wfh and no friends or connections, I worry a lot about what people gonna , I tried to meet people but because of the weight I am gaining now it is hard for me ..

Anyone been through that ! I feel am suffering in silence

hi, anyone had experience with traveling while being pregnant, am 29 weeks and have an emergency 1 hour travel by flight, willing to stay only for 2 nights and return to London. Is this safe? I have requested a fit to fly certificate from the gp but haven't heard from them yet.. any advices to have a smooth flight ! travelling with ryanair for info !

Hi folks,

I’m seeking advice regarding a complex case for my mother.

The Background:

• 2022: My mother applied for a Standard Visitor Visa. It was refused with a 10-year ban under Paragraph 9.8.1 for alleged "document falsification." My mother doesn't speak English; she didn't understand the severity of the letter at the time and never showed it to me.
• 2023: We applied again (unaware of the ban), and it was refused immediately citing the previous deception finding.
• Current Situation: I am now back in the UK and have thoroughly investigated every single document from those applications. I am 100% certain the documents were genuine. The ECO's decision was completely irrational.

I have submitted a Subject Access Request (SAR) to get the internal caseworker notes and the Document Verification Report (DVR). I want to see exactly what they think was "fake" so I can challenge it. We plan to send a Pre-Action Protocol (PAP) letter in June.

My Questions:

1. The "3-Month" Wait: I’ve seen posts here saying that even when a PAP is accepted (the Home Office concedes), they take another 3 months to reconsider. Can anyone explain this to me ?
2. Next Steps after Acceptance: If the HO agrees to reconsider and withdraws the 9.8.1 ban, what actually happens next? Do they just ask for her passport, or does she start the whole application over
3. My current solicitor hasn't been very clear about the timeline. Based on your experiences, what is a realistic timeline from sending a PAP in June to actually getting the visa?

My mother has a stable life and a job back home; there is zero risk of her overstaying. I just want her to be able to visit me here. Any insight into the PAP/Reconsideration process would be life-saving.

Thanks in advance!