I am working mom, married for 8 years. I have problem with my mil from starting of my marriage. Two days after my marriage mil talked not nice about my mother in front of me which is still there in my heart. She is so intelligent that she knows how to behave and talk to me in front of my husband. Everything she only manages at home. I have a gratitude towards her that she is taking care of kids when i am at work. But i am not able to take her authority over me. Everything she wants know, i have to cook how she does, not how i like. If she want me to do some work she keep on tells me. It doesn’t matter whether i want to do now or later. My husband is the only kid. Even if i tell all these things to him he wont say a thing. If he does he tells me to adjust n ignore and be normal. Which hurts more. Till date i didn’t see him take stand by side and talk to his mother. She doesn’t like getting suggestions from others because she feels like she knows everything and how to do it perfect but she is always there to give me suggestions even if i don’t want to. Sometimes my husband also feels bad that he is not having privacy. I know my husband loves me n he takes care of me n my children. But he wont involve between me n mil. I don’t want to ruin my marriage life n i don’t want to be like this. Because of this mental pressure our marriage life is also getting affected. How to overcome this pressure? How to talk to my husband that he has to talk to his mother ?
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I am working mom, married for 8 years. I have problem with my mil from starting of my marriage. Two days after my marriage mil talked not nice about my mother in front of me which is still there in my heart. She is so intelligent that she knows how to behave and talk to me in front of my husband. Everything she only manages at home. I have a gratitude towards her that she is taking care of kids when i am at work. But i am not able to take her authority over me. Everything she wants know, i have to cook how she does, not how i like. If she want me to do some work she keep on tells me. It doesn’t matter whether i want to do now or later. My husband is the only kid. Even if i tell all these things to him he wont say a thing. If he does he tells me to adjust n ignore and be normal. Which hurts more. Till date i didn’t see him take stand by side and talk to his mother. She doesn’t like getting suggestions from others because she feels like she knows everything and how to do it perfect but she is always there to give me suggestions even if i don’t want to. Sometimes my husband also feels bad that he is not having privacy. I know my husband loves me n he takes care of me n my children. But he wont involve between me n mil. I don’t want to ruin my marriage life n i don’t want to be like this. Because of this mental pressure our marriage life is also getting affected. How to overcome this pressure? How to talk to my husband that he has to talk to his mother ?