M21 here! So first and foremost i don't open up much about this. So I M21 have 2 children with F22 lets call her "Beth". so Beth and i met when she was 17 i was 16. all was alright, she told me a story about a fist fight she got into with her mom because she was angry but i genuinely brushed it off as nothing. we have 2 girls one is unborn and one is 3 years old. we live together and have lived together for years now. (very important to the story as to why i never stayed and she left. her family owned the property and gave it to her for free so she OWNS the property and home)
but backstory over. (year 1) it all started when we were 17&18 (she's a year older). slight things. i couldn't talk to girls that were friends i couldn't talk to anyone female who was a friend i had to remove them all. she says that she went to her cousins (i didnt know at the time was her cousin) and was there with him and his daughter. so i was a bit confused. anywho. we have our daughter. i am struggling. i am taking care of her. our newborn. and im working at the same time. im genuinely going through it. i waited months. diaper changes, help with showers, and shaving. and im not talking about our newborn. i mean her. only to come home and get belittled for not doing the dishes. or not cleaning the living room. or not cleaning our bedroom good enough. (year 2) it was hard. then one night i get woken up out of my sleep to her wanting my phone. i give it and tell her its useless. she then proceeds to download teenage dating apps, and i tell her that, thats uncalled for and i did add people when we first met but i later blocked them. we got into a small verbal back and forth which ended with her punching me leaving a scar under my eye. soon after not just a week later, i had enough and left i was done. i left.
(year 3 2025) i was doing good, getting my credit built up. i even started getting in with the air force, im at my moms, were doing 50/50. i start dating someone else its going absolutely phenominal. im trading on the market making $200 a day which is incredible for me. then. my mom hits me with it. i pay $200 a month but shes letting 3 other people stay there. FOR FREE and they arent her kid. she tells me i have 2 months left before i need to leave her home. everyone needs to be out. so i move with my new girlfriend ive known for 4 weeks. and no joke. my new girlfriend without any say moves us. into a water damaged rundown camper. all good except.... water damaged campers are a no go. especially for kids. eventually something comes over me i dont know what. but something broke. my ex has a home. abusive sure but i was hoping maybe she had changed. maybe. just maybe she'd be better.
i come back i text and and the same day her and i start talking im on my way to her house with enough money for 2 little ceasars pizza's. i show up and her and my daughter are waiting, it was a rainy day. im in a $1000 (it came out in 2000 pontiac model) and i go inside and all is great for. 12 weeks? 3 months? until i started working at my current place of employment. it started small and slight. i would clean and do dishes before work. she would come home from work and make dinner that i wouldnt eat then get angry that i wasnt doing the dishes. then she stopped cleaning everything and only did laundry. i would vacuum, do dishes, pick up toys. nothing but she finds the first thing to attack me for if i forgot one small thing. its tiresome. and exhausting. then it rolled into the open relationship thing. so i myself kinda like cuckholdry. this isnt the subreddit for that so i wont go further. but she started talking to a guy. all is well. they flirted and had fun. but what got bad was when she began twisting what we had and what we were doing. into a weapon. "i told him everything your doing and he said he could do it better and never question me" stuff like that. always holding him. over my head. always saying she could get better. when he didnt give her what was wanted. (year 4 2026) she started attacking me directly about my home. any argument ended in "get the f### OUT of my home. get out. its my rules and what i say goes" meanwhile were just having an argument/debate... i WILL have contradictions. it got so bad i genuinely started packing my things and have YET to unpack them. and now its she threatens me to leave and kick me out and always always threatens. "if you dont stop im gonna hit you" shes even while arguing in bed pulled the "i could kill you now stop" card.
im genuinely scared. i dont know how to face this. i genuinely just need a friend.