AITAH For messaging my Fiancée's brother?
I (39M, American) have been engaged to my fiancée (34F, Dutch) for about 2 years. We’re long distance, with me in the US and her in the Netherlands. We usually talk every night after I get off work (6 hour time difference). If she’s tired or going to bed early, she normally tells me.
Keep in mind I don't know a lot about Whatsapp as I only use it to text and video chat with her.
Last night about 3:57 PM she told me she wanted to watch an episode of her show before we talked. I said okay because I needed to run to the store anyway. Around 4:42 and messaged her that I was home. Around 5:00 I asked if she was watching one episode or two, but the messages went through but she never read them.
Around 5:25 I tried calling her. Usually if her phone is on DND (starts at 4:45 PM my time), the second call will still ring through. This time it didn’t. I tried a couple more times and thought maybe either her app or my connection was messed up, so I restarted my phone and router. Tried calling a couple more times after each because the DND thing.
At that point I started getting worried because it was unusual, so I messaged her brother and just asked if he had heard from her. I’ve only done that one other time in our whole relationship, and that time she had accidentally left her phone at home.
About 30 minutes later she finally called and said she had been on another video call and was declining my calls. We had a good conversation and she fell asleep on the phone.
This morning, I had to message her first (at 3:00 my time). When I did, I got the following from her,
“Good morning”
“Could you please not text my brother”
“When I don’t answer the phone”
“He told me he finds it annoying”
I replied,
“Gotcha"
"Have a nice day (her name) and don’t forget cat food.”
Later on I apologized for contacting him. She read it but I still haven't heard from her since.
AITAH for messaging her brother to ask if he had heard from her when the calls suddenly weren’t going through?