u/HeartInTheGarbage

I can’t really believe this happened to me because it seems like something out of a movie. I’ve been dating this guy for just a couple months and it’s gone really well. We haven’t moved too fast, and I really like spending time with him. He has never been the most gushy type, but he seemed to really like me too.

Last night we were on FaceTime and talking about the future in a general sense (when we would be able to spend time together this summer, etc.) All of a sudden he asks me if there’s anything about him that bothers me or has been on my mind. I cracked a joke and basically said no, and asked him the same about me.

He asks me if I want him to be brutally honest and I hesitate then say yes. He says something about how he’s worried our “lifestyles don’t align” because he wants to live a really active life and have a partner who cares about being physically fit.

Now we have talked about things like this a lot. He knows I like to go on runs and hike and we’ve talked about doing all kinds of active things together. I feel that I am pretty healthy, although my body type is not the typical fit/skinny/athletic type. I have worked hard to love myself and take care of myself and so it really shocked me that he was saying this, and obviously meant he disliked my physique. Not that it matters, but no one else I’ve dated or been with has ever had a complaint.

After talking a little more I was too stunned to say much more and said we should just hang up. I’m so confused why he would say this because a) he knows I am/ want to be active and b) my body hasn’t changed since we started dating, so I have no idea what he expected me to say to that. I am not really interested in losing weight ESPECIALLY not in this situation.

He hasn’t texted me since and I’m kind of at a loss. Just leave it at that? Or should I ask him to clarify what he really meant? Either way I can’t really see myself ever feeling comfortable with him again.

TIA