so, for general context : i am a stay at home mom of a 6 month old. recently my best friend of 3 years has just not seemed to comprehend that my day is full of everything to do with my baby.
context for the texts : i asked last week about coming to get the key for a storage unit from her while she was at work, that I’ve already paid half for in full for the year, but something came up and I wasn’t able to go get the keys from her, so i just said i would do it next weekend and get the keys from her at work then. She calls me yesterday to ask if i wanted to just go with her today instead since she was making the trip. I said sure that sounds fine. End of convo, okay cool. Today she calls me at 2:20 p.m. to ask if I have my stuff ready to go, I said, “not yet, but I can get it ready within 10-ish minutes.” (She lives right down the road from me). She says that won’t work because she has an appointment in Danville at 3, which is about 20 minutes from us. So the time break down she expected to happen would’ve been this : immediately be at my house around 2:30, we get my stuff packed up (which was only 3 things) drive 5 minutes to the storage unit, put things away, then I just go to Danville with her (which she never even asked if I could, she just assumed). We could’ve made it to Danville on time, but it would’ve been in a pinch. And that was only relying on the fact that I was up and ready for her at the exact time she called me, mind you, the first time she’s contacted me all day or give me any kind of time frame on when we’d be going. I asked her if we could just do it after her appointment, and she says she can’t because she has to clean her house for company tomorrow. This is not the first time something like this has happened. It’s every time she asks to hang out with me. She won’t text me or call or anything until she is ready. When I ask to hang out I’m very consistent about what time to be ready by, what time we’ll start our plans, etc. I’m a very schedule oriented person and she’s a “go on the fly” type, which was never too much of any issue until I became a full time mother. Which she says she understands, but continues to do this.
TLDR : friend does not understand that being a mother is a full day of responsibility and planning around my child’s schedule, consistently disrespects my wishes for a text or call ahead of time of hang out or plans.