Will probably take this down later. I mostly just need to vent.
I (27F) have been dating my boyfriend (31M) for 6 years now, we’ve lived together 4 of them.
We share a laptop and are both logged into our emails on it. I was using his browser yesterday and didn’t realize until I went to gmail. I saw an email that said “new login on OnlyFans” and my heart just sunk.
So last night while he was asleep I looked through his phone, and found screenshots of his ex’s OnlyFans.
I was able to guess the login for his account, and confirmed that he was indeed subscribed to her. I looked through his transaction history and he hasn’t paid for anything in a few years, but has been on and off paying for stuff the entirety of our relationship. I’m not sure how long he’s been following his ex.
I need advice. Our living situation is complicated and we have a 1 year old son, so breaking up isn’t as cut and dry.
I haven’t confronted him about this yet and am very detached emotionally right now. I don’t know what to say to him. I invaded his privacy a lot but given what I found I feel it was justified. I just don’t know how to even bring this up, I feel numb and sick.
TLDR; boyfriend had screenshots of ex’s Onlyfans in his phone. together 6 years with 1 y/o son, need advice on confronting him and what to say