That seems to be what I’m really struggling with most right now. 24 your marriage. Recent discovery of massage parlor visits and lots of other suspicions but no answers yet. This isn’t the first time with massage parlor visits in question.
For so many years, he hasn’t wanted me. And after trying several times to confront and ask why it was always met with blame to me. You’ve let yourself go, you’ve gained too much weight, I’m not attracted to you anymore, etc. I admit it. After so many years, I’m not being interested in me no affection, etc. I quit trying. I would initiate on rare occasions, but if I didn’t nothing,l would’ve ever happened. So after years of a roommate marriage, I finally discovered a few months ago that he’s been going to massage parlors.
I think the recent discovery paired with years of basically being abandoned I just don’t feel the same for him any more . I know I loved him when I married him, but I just don’t feel it now. I don’t really even like him I care about him and want him to get better and do what’s right, but I just can’t seem to get to a point where I can feel love for him anymore
This scares me the most. I’m looking for people in maybe similar situations with a long-term marriage where they were able to get that spark back. I don’t know how I can stay in this and try to help him through recovery without love and desire to make this work. I know I’m only three months out from discovery which by the way was not a confession. He got caught, and I confronted him.
Anybody have hopeful words for me? Worrying about this makes me feel really distraught.