I have a two-year old child whose dad has BPD. I don’t know enough to speak to the severity of it, but he was raised by a nut of a mother who doesn’t seem to have it. She just isn’t very smart, didn’t give him the best childhood, instilled a lot of religious fear in him. He experienced emotional neglect but was otherwise taken care of. His dad was in and out of the picture. Overall he didn’t have the most stable life as a child.
When we dated he had several episodes that were written off to other things when I didn’t know any better. I’d say 90% of our relationship, he was actually quite stable.
After I got pregnant, things started to go downhill. His behavior became erratic and concerning. I think it was a combination of stress of entering parenthood again (he has children with someone else) and who knows what else. The relationship became abusive.
I was a first time mom, loved him, and wanted to give it a chance. I begged him to seek help. I’ll spare all of the details, but eventually we separated when baby was still young.
I know there is a genetic aspect and environmental aspect to developing BPD. If my child doesn’t grow up around their BPD parent, is raised in a normal, stable environment, what are their chances?