I am a 26 F and my BF is a 28 M. We’ve been together since college (6 years) and are living together. I have just been really flip flopping for a few months on if we lost our connection or not.
We met my junior year of college and had a real whirlwind romance. We get along with each others families, are incredibly supportive of each other, laugh constantly, have great sex, share a lot of the same friends, and are ultimately each others best friends. We see incredibly eye to eye on almost everything and I can completely see myself getting through anything with him.
There has just always been something in the back of my mind wondering if he’s actually the one though. I have always thought it was just something in my head because I can be quite obsessive at times but the last couple weeks something has just shifted. I was away on vacation and missed him quite a bit but when I came back couldn’t really stand to be by him. I haven’t been having as much fun on our dates but I assumed it’s just because he’s going though a bit of a hard time at work and it can put him in a weird headspace. I think that’s where a lot of my issues come from, he can pretend to be a little manically happy when he’s not doing well and it’s been a bit uncomfortable at times to be around. The biggest thing to me is that we’ve been going to social events with friends and I have not been having fun with him there. I usually would see him coming as a huge win because I have so much fun with him but recently I have been dreading spending extra time with him. My friends hosted something tonight and invited him but I really wished I could go alone. I did not have any fun because I felt like he wouldn’t be ok if I left his side which he used to be!
I want to write it all off as him being anxious /stressed out by work and stand by him during this difficult time. But part of me wonders if this is just the beginning of the end? Please tell me this is normal after a relationship this long. We’ve had our issues and challenges to work through but this feels different this time because I’ve never navigated it before.
Anything helps, thank you!