AITAH For Not Calling My Mother Today?
AITAH for not calling my mother today to wish her a Happy Mother’s Day? So I know the word narcissist is starting to lose weight all the while the behavior and characteristics are becoming more recognizable by the masses. When I use narcissist as a way to describe people who are in fact narcissistic, I do not do so recklessly so do know that my mother is in fact a narcissist and worse.
Here’s some of the most recent examples of the treatment I’ve received from my mother, 69F. In December of 2024 my stepfather passed away rather suddenly. They’d been together for 30 years. They worked together, traveled together, they were never a part. So you can imagine she took it hard. It was hard. It was devastating for her. Since this she’s continued to create situations that put me in a bad light. She manipulates others and lies about me to keep them away from me. Im kind, and helpful, and caring, and selfless. She hates me for it. She has made me financially dependent on her in a way that she has me trapped. She spends money to help me but doesn’t do what I need her to that is best for me so she’s in return spent or wasted money and goes around telling people that I’m dangerous (we will get back to that) that I’m lazy, I won’t work, I’m living off of the government (I’m not). She belittles anyone and everyone positive in my life so im isolated. I’m able I’m capable but she will sabotage every chance I have to get out from under her control and she has.
A few days ago she called 911 and said hurry get here hurry she’s attacking me she pushed me help she’s attacking me. I wasn’t. I didn’t. And wouldn’t. I was raising my voice because she gave me a van that she purchased for $1200 that isn’t work $5 and said look how much room you’ll have in there. I’m without housing at the moment. She has 4 beds and it’s just her but she’s told people that she’s afraid of me therefore I can’t stay with her so I live in my vehicle. Do know that all of this is based on lies. I’m not violent I’m not aggressive I don’t steal. Im not on drugs. I would never try or call in others to try to do anything to her. I. Would. Never!’
The police came and of course I didn’t go to jail because she made it up. But because of this they explained that she could have me trespassed. So she did. That took away my shower and laundry. There’s a bath house on the property where she lives and works. I would go at 2-3 am to shower and be gone within the hour to not disturb others and they didn’t see me struggling In my car life. But now I don’t have that resource. She celebrated when I had and flat tire. She rejoiced at the fact i was out of gas. She cusses me out she projects she twists things to fit a false narrative.
Everything she says to me is accusatory and made up or fabricated. It’s so bizarre that o can’t even repeat it.
she’s not a mother to me. She didn’t raise me, my beautiful amazing grandmother did (I miss her terribly) she just showed at high school graduation “ready” to parent. She was terrible at it. She never came to visit my place and when she did she walked around judging even the smallest of details and then start an argument so she could storm out and then retell it like I did it and then kicked her out of my house so therefore she’s not coming back to visit. She’s not warm or nurturing. Shes mean and hatful and projects it onto me. If I say something she almost immediately turns it arounds like she said it. It’s strange. So she’s not safe.
I’m not calling her but you can bet that I will never hear the end of it and will be punished in a way that will make the days ahead even more difficult than they are today.
If you have a warm nurturing mother, love on her, let her know how much she is appreciated. I’m sure there is only one thing worse than losing a parent and that is having one that hates you.
Happy Mother’s Day to all of the real ones! Be blessed