27 m never had a girlfriend and i’m just spiraling today
idk where to even start. last weekend i went out, met a girl at the bar, brought her home, hung out for a while after. felt like something. texted her after, nothing. ghosted. and on its own that’s whatever people ghost, i get it, but it’s just stacking on everything else.
i had a situationship for like 4 months that fizzled out a little bit ago. never became a real thing. and now my close friend is dating her friend so i have to see her all the time or i don’t get to hang out with my friends. last time i saw her she was all over some other dude and then the second he left she was all over me. i didn’t do anything but it just made me feel like shit. like i’m the backup when the main option walks away. and i just have to keep showing up to it every weekend and pretend it’s fine.
i’m 27 and have literally never had a girlfriend. apps don’t work, i’ll go on dates and they don’t turn into anything, hookups don’t turn into anything, the situationship didn’t turn into anything. i do the work, i’m in the gym, i have a good job, friends say i’m a genuinely nice dude. i don’t know what’s wrong with me.
the thing i’m starting to realize is i think i’m just way too in my head about all of it. like with anything else in my life i can just be normal but the second it’s a girl i’m in there managing every thought and i think people feel that. but knowing that doesn’t make it stop.
Right now i just feel like it’s never going to happen for me and i don’t know how to get out from under it. anyone been here?