u/Haunting_Marzipan484

So between the two of us I go to work and she takes care of the kids. She had the option to go back to work after our second daughter was born but declined because she didn’t want other people raising our kids. I have to pay rent, food, the bills and anything else she wants. She calls me controlling because she doesn’t have access to my checking account. I give her $300 dollars a week plus whatever she needs. She has my credit card and again doesn’t have to pay for rent food etc. The whole reason behind this is I don’t fully trust her with money cause I don’t think she budgets properly and I don’t want her to overspend. So am I the asshole?