u/Haunting-Pop7854

I'm 18M bttm virgin. To be completely honest i'm not the hottest, the prettiest or the sexiest but not the ugliest! For years i had this thought that "tops will only consider doing something with a bttm if they look like a femboy or wear feminine clothes while doing 'it'" and i don't really know if it's true! I have been on dating sites for a year (completely wrong pls don't do it if you're not old enough i had long deleted my account) and talked to many tops that wanted the bttm to wear lingeries and wear makeup and look feminine and cute and have a perfect body etc etc which honestly kinda made my confidence drop and convinced myself that i'll have to glow up if i wanted my virginity taken or whatever but i saw a lot of tops on other social platforms like ofc reddit and tiktok saying that looks don't rlly matter and that femininity in a gay man isn't important! I wanna get a proper answer if any could provide it ofc even here or on dms! Tysmm <3