Hey Everyone,
I had this experience last night, and wanted to share as I think if it changes how one person acts in the same scenario it could help our community out. 38M, so hoping at least one younger person reads this it could have a positive impact, as i wont be going to as many shows as the rest of you all going forward.
I was at a show, and about 10 ft to my right I saw a guy getting handsy with a girl while they were dancing, and she was visibly uncomfortable. This happened 2-3 times, with the same guy not getting the hints. I have seen this happen in the past, and been uncomfortable, but not taken any action. Likely not confident enough in my own skin, or assuming the bar security would handle it if there was an issue.
I approached them both, and starting chatting with the girl, and just asked "Hey are you OK, everything alright?" She looked at me a little confused and said "yes, were good here", I said "are you sure?" She said "yes" as we were talking the guy walked away from her. I said "Ok I hope you have a wonderful rest of the evening" and as I walked away she said "Thanks for checking in"
Now I don't know the story between them, her story, his story or anything - but when she said thanks I realized that I probably should have been doing this every time I saw something that made me feel uncomfortable at shows. It took me 30 seconds out of my night to make sure someone else was having a good time. And they were appreciative. So likely too late for me to have a big impact now with that change in behaviour, as I don't go to enough shows anymore due to my somewhat advanced age, but I thought sharing that experience might make someone who has read this think differently in that situation, and the potential positive impact you could have on someones life for a small move on your part.