So my husband posted on Reddit about the situation and people tore him apart.
For context: I have a job where I have to schedule my vacations a year in advance and it is all seniority based. We do it in October for the whole next year. When I scheduled my vacation we were not going to have my ss so we were gonna do a week long camping trip. After the way the holidays fell, we had him this week so I was like cool we’ll just camp this weekend. I do not have the parenting holiday schedule so I do the best I can. So I had no idea it was Mother’s Day weekend until last month when our adult cousins came to us and said they couldn’t come because it’s Mother’s Day weekend. No problem.
My husband reached out to bm asking her to consider letting us take him and we would have him back late morning/early afternoon of Sunday. She said no which was no biggie.
Now normally these camping trips get sent out to the entire family and people come based on their schedules. We plan 3 to try to get everyone. We are the sole planners of these trips. My nephews are coming and my dad accidentally blurted in front of as about packing but kiddo was so involved in his games he didn’t catch it and I was able to head off the question from my dad via death glare and head shake. My husbands concern is son finding out from cousins and being upset he wasn’t included and if we should be honest and tell him. Enter my husband reaching out to Reddit and Reddit essentially calling him a monster. We love my ss and I would never do anything like this to hurt him. Please send advice!