AITAH for not wanting to go to the gym with my friends
So 4 weeks ago, me and my 2 friends made an agreement to get a gym membership together and start going together.
The three of us have only been to the gym together once since we all got the membership, every time I tried to invite them to go with me in the first week they either turn me down right off the bat or say yes, then cancel on me on the day. But since they’ve been dealing with exams, I’ve mostly been going alone as our schedules just don’t work together. I’ve been really enjoying my alone time at the gym, I’ve figured out a good workout as well as being on a strict diet plan.
I’ve always been someone that really prioritises my looks, I am well groomed and overall I just really care about how I look. Whereas the 2 of them I’d say are more easygoing with looks, they’ve never been too into health or fitness, and take maintenance way less seriously. And that is in no way a jab to them, just stating general facts.
Yesterday I finally got the chance to go to the gym with one of them. I do think I do push myself quite a bit at the gym, pushing until failure for each set, I go 4 times a week, consistently improving on my workout routines. When I introduced her to my routine, she said the weights were too heavy (which I completely understand, as she hasn’t been consistent with the gym, so I simply helped her lower it), and that I’m doing too many reps. All I do are 3x12 for each workout, and if I can manage I just keep going until I can’t anymore. She complains it is too hard, does about 2 sets and is done.
Now this is NOT about her ability to do how many sets, the reason I don’t want to go to the gym with her anymore is because I’m someone that once I fixate on a goal, I go hard and I don’t give myself much slack. Whereas I found going with her made me have to wait around for ages and just- our goals aren’t aligned. I wouldn’t mind working out with her but I think I’d just prefer someone that cared about their looks as much and would like the same intensity as me. AITAH?
Edit: she once called me fatphobic (which I am to myself) and since then I’ve felt guilty and almost responsible if they felt bad about themselves. But what’s so bad about not wanting to be out of shape?