Its really wild seeing people say leave in other subs and the messages seem nice compared.
So I of course see posts on the front page and check other subs etc. A lot of posts are made with text images and the comments are saying if my partner ever spoke to me like that I would leave or this isn't love. The crazy part is the messages are TAME compared to even the smallest bpd episode message. I see these messages and think man that hurdle is passable as I look back at old messages being called the absolute worst possible things a human could think of. Things I wouldn't even say to my worst enemy let alone somebody I thought about marrying and go yet I stayed. Friends/family/therapists see the messages and go do you really think this is love and I just can't help but try to defend them by saying they have BPD as if this absolves them of all the trauma and pain they caused.