Tired
I’m beyond tired of coexisting with non vegans .
Yesterday, I had a dramatic argument with my mom that began with dating advice to veganism when I brought up how the person I settle down with will be vegan and nothing would change that. She argued how love changes things and even things we never would have expected so I just restated how my principles and morales overrule everything else especially a partner. Long story short, we argued back and forth, and I exploded saying soon as I move in going no contact because I can’t stand non vegans and of course this upset her so she threatened to kick me out and wished me luck on my education since she manages all my finances. I just couldn’t hold it in anymore when she said how she didn’t wanna talk about veganism since it always ends in arguments and how she’ll never change and that it is what it is. During the argument she brought up how she respects my choices so I should respect hers and she started picking at straws, trying to guilt trip me using all the things and sacrifices she’s done for me, to end the argument. We eventually resolved it by me sucking up to her, telling her I don’t and won’t respect it as it’s not something to respect, but that I love her and apologized for hurting her.
It’s so upsetting when loved ones can be the most selfish monstrous consumers, but instead of seeing the pain they cause and extending their empathy, they rather take offense to their destructive ways and blame you for being so “immature and emotional”. My fault for having the decency to not partake in the cruelties against animals for my delight. Like these people know what they’re doing yet they turn a blind eye and rather than doing better they avoid the topic because they know they have no excuse. What’s more frustrating is that she accompanies me to vegan places, always expressing how happy she is by being there yet she can’t make the moral connection, it always ends in her seeing my lifestyle as modern, privileged and lightweight.
I can’t wait to be independent and have mature discussions about veganism once I’m older. She won’t be able to use anything against me at that point and I’ll finally get to properly express my points. Unfortunate that this is the reality and that I’m the “radical” one but I’ll never give up and changes are coming.