Where do I find guys who like anime and video games....but are also normal?
I am 30 years old
A woman
And 70% of the time I come across a guy who shares my interests in anime and gaming like me on the dating apps....they come across as fetishistic. Like they only seem to be interested in the idea of having a girlfriend who wont be upset with the fact that they're into gaming and not care about anything else about me.
I mean yes.... anime and gaming are two of my favorite hobbies but there is more to me than that; I have family and friends, I am a full time registered behavior technician, I love movies and occasionally reading novels, I indulge in creative writing for fun, i volunteer with horses on Sundays and I collect hello kitty merch.
Or if they dont fetishize me....they can't hold a conversation or pick up on basic social cues.
And while I have met some great, well adjusted uys who have their lives together at the comic store I frequent to play A TTRPG games....they are either taken or I cant see myself being more than friends with them for various other reasons (i.e., fundmental differences in values or lack of chemistry). And there are also a few weirdos there who want to treat the shop like a boys only club and feel like they have to quiz me before they believe i am into this stuff.
I would like a guy who i can game with and watch anine with but I am starting to wonder if maybe thats not in the cards with me.