u/Gretal122

I'm a mum to two adult daughters and Grandmother to our Grandchildren.

One of my daughters is going to be entertaining ( with my husband)at an outdoor park sort of venue that's having a Mothers day picnic day , so I should probably go, but my other daughter is having a rough time and I don't think will want to go ( she doesn't have to of course), I just feel I ' should go '( but am just not really feeling like doing anything to be honest

I have struggled with depression most of my life ad usually ' push myself 'to go to things when Im.'supposed to ' ( if that makes sense?)

I just wondered what others mums are doing tomorrow.?

Anyway, Happy Mothers Day

Can anyone relate, or give me some ideas to feel better.

I do have anxiety, but no real reason for me to be feeling particularly anxious today ?

I've been concerned for some problems my daughter ( in her forties) is facing, long story, too complicated.

I just wish I could 'fix things' for her .

Im honestly stumped this year.

Its not that I wouldn't want to buy her more, I just can't find something that I think she'd like this year.

She asked for a throw rug/ picnic blanket type of thing( good quality, around $130 ,)that she saw online a month or so ago , which we ordered.

She doesn't use fragrances ( they give her allergies)

, it's hard to buy clothes ( she is very petite and even finds it hard to find things that fit ,so has to try them on)

I thought maybe some nice pjs, but she says she has

plenty and even has a 'Peter Alexander '( luxury sleepwear store) voucher for over $100 still to use that she was given last year .

Anyway, so I went shopping yesterday and just bought a little make up purse, and bought a few small make-up items (lipstick, mascara , eye liner) that she usually uses ?

Im also supplying a birthday cake that we ordered for

$ 78 and will be going out for dinner with her and family..

Any other ideas .?

Does this sound ok please?

So , for context, my husband does entertaining ( singing) at various venues, sometimes most weekends.

I don't always feel like going out( my husband doesn't mind , he just tells me to do whatever I'd like.

We are in our 60s and sometimes I just don't feel like going out?

It's also weird sometimes sitting at the venue, when most couples are there ' together' and of course, my husband is ' there' but obviously Im not sitting with him, he's working.

Anyway, I did make the effort to go out the other day( it was an afternoon show)), and another regular person who goes said something like " Aren't you glad you came"?

I said yes, and then he commented that I really should take something for anxiety ( I think implying that I should be going to more of the things my husband is entertaining at)

I just said something like " I suppose so "

I do have anxiety, but it's not really the reason I don't go, I just don't have the energy to want to go sit at a venue socialising when I don't feel like it ?

I had been friendly and talked with others there..

Its not like I was being ' anxious, ' about anything ?

What would your response have been?