My Husband and I have been together for 14 years married for 9. He is a great StepDad to my 16 year old son. We share another child together. For complicated reasons I don’t have contact with my family. My in laws are brilliant in that they often take the children away , babysit , and are actively involved in their lives , without us having to ask.
When my youngest was born , MIL helped with childcare so I can go back to work and both MIL and FIL have a special bond with both kids. There have been times where some basic parental boundaries have been crossed , but MIL had been hugely apologetic afterward upon seeing our reaction.
Yesterday was my son’s 16th birthday, husband and I work full time and life is SO stressful at the moment I could cry.
I came home at 4.30pm ready for an easy breezy evening , with visitors popping by assumed, but time to clean up the house - knowing my 16yo is celebrating tomorrow properly.
When I walked in , my house was already full - husbands parents , brother and my eldest’s father and his wife. Husband and I didn’t have a clue. Eldest’s father and wife had text saying they were just at mine about 4-15 - they often pop in but visits are short and sweet but it looked as if they felt uncomfortable to leave, as this was now a ‘get together’
House was upside down I was so ashamed. MIL also bought a personalised cake with sparklers , putting my simple cake (his Fav btw) to shame. Husband came home at 6 bewildered.
MIL said about the cake , and I said we already had one and she replied we can do ours tomorrow (today). MIL then said - let’s do the cake , and I said yes but nipped to the toilet beforehand (to be fair , after she left the room I then said - oh just popping upstairs quickly). I came back down and it was all over.
I found this birthday a little difficult I had a cry in the morning because - he’s 16 , it’s a bit of a milestone. He looks about 20 years old already. FIL was looking to leave earlier I think sensing my confusion, but MIL replied ‘he’s only 16 once’.
My question is: Am I overreacting for being upset.