Is there any advice anyone can offer as to how I can hold my ex-spouse accountable through the process? We’re a year into this hopefully coming to a conclusion soon, my ex is creating a situation. We lived with her parents for support during rough times, we have kids and now that we are divorcing she is nothing but problematic. I know many things I will just have to deal with but she is essentially only living with her parents because she has the kids. Otherwise, based on their relationship they’d kick her out. She knows this and leverages the kids, my in laws have turned to me for help and I want to help. Can she be forced to get a job or provide monthly documentation of what she is spending the child support on? Can they testify against her to make her act right without her losing custody? She’s not a bad mom (per say) but using the kids as leverage against everyone and its hindering everyone’s ability to help and support.
Helping financially besides my legal obligation has proven to just enable poor spending habits and secret purchases. I helped her pay for doula schooling and she hasn’t even done anything to use it after 6 months.
Any advice is welcome.