Hello!
I guess i just have to ask the general public at this point because i just feel like im being gaslit at times.
Within the last 2 months, my partner and i lost our infant son followed by my friend group in a car crash 2 weeks later, ive been to conselling, church, trying to keep my head above water mentally with my 3 year old and my new pregnancy (that i concieved before my sons passing) so i may be overreacting in that regard.
I would say my partner (26m) and i (25f) have had serious ups and down since we moved states with no support about mid pregnancy with our son.
He just started a new job about a week ago and has gotten friendly with his co workers quickly (i love it - he has been hip to hip with me, i know he needs more guy friends in this area) we had great texts back and forth throughout breaks/lunches at work where he informed me he was going to get beers with his boss. Great, told him by back by 1:30am at the latest (his shift ends at 11:20pm)
At 1:37am: he wrote 'heading home soon, my boss is an amazing person' i woke up at 1:45am to transfer my 3 year old back to her bed from ours so my partner after drinking could just fall in bed. I waited. And waited. Texted, called on every platform, his phone wasnt off or dead but after around 2 ish hours of no response and me even texting:
'if you dont answer, im really sorry and please dont be mad but i may have to file a missing persons report because youre walking home from the bar and you could be dead on the side of the road'
THAT is when i think my paranoia took off after all my recent losses,
It took about an hour of them searching for him to finally respond he was at his bosses place at 4:30am (he sent photos) and i immedately called the police to let them know he contacted me. They did also have call him to verify he was indeed found and safe. He said his boss saw the ID and it was extremely embarrassing for him.
He ended up home around 7am and we just had a huge argument about boundaries, he says i dont respect him, i asked for him just to send me an update text 'hey going 'here' from the bar, be home around xx' thats all i wanted and i never got a text after 'be home soon'. He then stated, i dont need to know where he is, etc. I know this relationship is slowly crumbing but was i in the wrong by filing after muliple hours of no contact in the middle of the night with no knowledge of the person/people hes with. (He is a grown man, can go and fo whatever but if we live together and we have set plans i just asumed he would stick to them)