Hey everyone, throwaway account just in case. I just need some advice/opinion of the neutral folks of reddit. So I matched with this guy on a dating app around 4 weeks ago, he seemed really sweet and so I thought I would shoot my shot and send him a message.
We got along really well instantly, he asked a lot of questions and showed genuine interest in me. He seemed like a great fit for me since we have shared interests, priorities and he gave me a warm and safe feeling right away. Then the same night ( we were texting until around 4 am ) he asked me to come over to his place. For safety reasons I obviously said no to that. He then tried to convince me to drive over anyway, but aside from the safety concern I was also just way too tired. So we flirted a bit more over text and then both went to bed.
Then the next day I have thought it through and decided now that it was daytime I could go visit him and get to know him in person. So I drove over to meet him and the first date went fantastic. He was really attentive, sweet and soft to me. Fast forward we had 4 more dates that went like this, everything seemed perfect.
That dynamic changed drastically all of a sudden shortly before and even more after our most recent date. So the day of the date we were talking about our preferences (clothing, hairstyle and the likes). I ended up showing him what I was going to wear and he said something along the lines of " oh god please dont wear this, this gives me the ick ". I was so taken aback by this, because so far he has only been positive and saying how perfect I look to him and that I should be myself. As far as Im concerned part of being yourself is also having your own style. So I told him that I wont buy new clothing, just because he doesnt like what I have, but agreed not to wear that piece of clothing to our date.
When I arrived to the date he was as sweet as he was the last times, so I thought it was just a slip from his side. Everyone can accidentely be a bit insensitive. For this date we planned that I would stay overnight and we would just have a relaxed evening watching some movies. That day was going great and at the end of the evening we had a conversation that we both want to make things official.
So we both went to bed very happy and had a great night with lots of cuddling. The morning I woke up and he was already out of bed, the bedroom door closed. I was thinking to myself how toughtfull that he lets me sleep in by staying quite. So I went to greet him in the morning and he was at his PC gaming. Which is not a big deal, we are both gamers and also I was still sleeping before that anyway. After around an hour of him still gaming and me petting him and me taking a shower I asked him if he wants to get up and spend some time with me. He then said he really wants to game a bit, so I offered he could game a bit on the phone instead while we cuddle on the couch. So we spend all day there with him glued to his phone...
Fast forward to the evening of that day, he brings me to my car and I drive home. That evening he send me a few more messages that he is glad I got home safe and then suddenly went really cold in the messages. From high frequency texting with lots of emotions, questions about me and how my day was and emotes from that day on he barely texts at all. No good night messages, no asking how I am, a whole different set of emojis and maybe 3-5 messages a day.
Im now sitting here wondering how someone can so suddenly change from this sweet, charming, warm person to whatever this is.
Any advice and opinions are appreaciated :)