u/GreedyJunket8638 — reddlx

I grew up as an emotionally abused child, and i have been daydreaming since I was 10-11. Last year I decided to quit, cutting down on music and all. However, I would be lying if I say that it was smooth and easy, or that I did not fall back in to my old patterns. I still tend to get trapped in the alternate reality that my mind creates, but now the only difference is that I am conscious of it and snap out of it. Back in the day, without even realising, I used to day dream for an entire day, ENTIRE DAY. Listening to music, and making up scenarios where I felt worthy and emotionally fulfilled.

Anyways, right now, I would say I have improved a bit, but i would be wrong if i say that its completely gone. The point of this post was to share how incredibly exposed, depressed and alone you feel once the walls, that you built once to protect yourself, tumble. You feel incredibly stuck once you realise that everything that you once imagined was just a mere imagination. In my case, I imagined a person who I will find and he will fix all the emotional gaps and all my insecurities. Now I know, that person does not exist, because that person is me.

I used to daydream of a very happening life, where everything is a 10 or perfect. Now? now i just want things to be stable and simple. The silver lining from this tiny improvement is that I am a lot more motivated to do things that make me happy, my inner child happy. Its like having an urge to ....create.

Back in the day, I used to avoid these things/activities thinking that they will not necessarily turn me in to the version of myself that I saw in my say dreams. The most strangest reason that I once had, to avoid my creative pursuits, was that my imaginary partner, who is supposed to fill all the emotional and material gaps, might not be very supportive of my interests or they might not feel very proud of me, or they might not love me enough because of what i do (ik, sounds strange).

Once you remove all these things, its just you and a long road ahead, that is not decided yet. It gets scary, but their is also a glimmer of hope that things will eventually go well. Stability and peace will follow and I really wish that everyone here eventually discover it, within themselves.