u/Great_Spot_69

Okay so there is a lot of context behind this. My bf we’ll call Jim doesn’t want me to go to my nephews first birthday because my ex is going to be there. And says I should tell my sister that he can’t go and if he goes I can’t. But the issue is. My ex is my sister’s finances brother. And he has a baby just a few months older. So it’s about the babies at this point. At least that’s what my sister says. And my ex well call Rick talks a lot of shit and runs his mouth all of town and tells very personal things about me just to stir the pot. Now that was from a long time ago. My sister asked me just to put shit behind us.

So I tried being the adult and being friends and everything was good for a bit and we went to a pumpkin patch with my sister and her baby and man and my ex and his girlfriend and their baby went and me and my boyfriend went. Now we were fiends on snap and did have a streak at one point but it was just talking about the plans. Absolutely nothing else and I didn’t hide this from my bf at all and he has always had full access to my phone from day one. Now like I said how my ex Rick has talked shit. My current boyfriend and him have very close mutual friends and we all grew up in the same town so everyone knows everyone and I honestly did think my bf knew about me and Rick past and apparently he didn’t. And once he did we got into a bad fight about it and I said I understand and removed him off of snap.

Now it’s not like we hang out all the time with them literally only doing special occasions with family events that I had be no control over who comes. And he ended up turning the argument into everything about my past saying I never should have slept with any guys I did and called me a whore because I had a one night stand three years ago. And wants a crazy explanation about why I did it and he needs to know every part of it. And he’s just constantly bringing up my past and who I’ve been with and I know what I did in my past I’m not proud of it all but he tries to force to feel shame about shit I did literally from years ago and some it was like over five years ago. I can’t change anything from my past and I don’t understand why he’s so hung up on it and idk how to make it better other then just ending things because we’ve been together 8 months and prob about every month wr have a fight about my past.

And there’s nothing that I say I don’t talk about my exs or my past. I don’t have any of social media expect for the of their families and both of those exs are dead and he still wants them removed and I won’t. So any way am I wrong from just wanting to give up and say it is what it is. Because I feel like asking me to miss my first nephews first birthday is a crazy ask when his mom is friends with a women who’s daughter he used to sleep with. Every week while she was with her boyfriend and she still comes to baby showers and gets invited to family things but I’d never ask him not to go because I know it’s not about him or us. If that makes sense. Thank you in advanced.

(Fake names used)
Also to add he’s a great bf any other time it’s just when this stuff gets brought up it’s like a 360 happens. He takes care of me I’m a flight attendant so I’m only home part time he takes care of my animals and he’ll buy me whatever I want or if I need help always will. It’s just when this happens it gets so bad. That’s why idk if maybe I’m wrong