So I’ve been dating a girl for about 11 months and just like many others on paper things look great however behind the scene I notice there are a lot of gaps. When saying gaps I mean I increasingly find myself emotionally drained to the bone after spending a weekend together.
It’s not though that we have fights, I believe there is a lot of emotional maturity. We communicate a lot, are able to take feedback. However I notice for example on Sunday we are taking it easy have a conversation that turns into a full blown argument…when I ask for space and pause she doesn’t respect it and keeps pushing..I am going through hardship at work and she knows that yet pushed me to the point where my inner voice when “I need to get the hell out of her place”. I endure..but feeling dead and numb inside.
When I get back my place I am exhausted and sometimes need half a day or more to gather my energy back. Last time it happened I just feel depressed ended up crying and confused as to I love this woman but at the same time something is happening that is making me feel this way…
Some differences: I am quite adventure seeker and want to experience life whereas in the other had she is quite the opposite..I feel like I have to keep pushing for adventure things to do, everything is received with doubt and I spend lots of energy selling idea, convincing etc…it’s draining…also life experiences she loved life in quite a safe space where life was easy…or then there is a lot of talk and no action to the point where I am thinking to myself (and expressed as well) that it seems like sh shares things for me to pick them up and push her to do things…also sexually I feel like I needed to invest months into “teaching” things including being very conservative…she is starting to open up and things are better however I am at the point where it doesn’t feel natural and rather feels like she is trying an wants to, in general plus she is aware that she is lacking and admitted it.
Often times it feels like I am dating a child who needs hand holding and it’s exhausting….
Anyone here that can share how they dealt with this?