My girlfriend of almost 2 yrs parents do not seem to like me or want to try to form some sort of relationship with me . She is what I consider “rich “ her parents live in the hills and in neighborhood of real big houses , mansions pretty much , I ended up meeting her through mutual friends when I was still in a relationship with my toxic ex . Meeting her gave me the confidence I needed to finally break up with my ex , mainly because she is very pretty and showed me interest and she was the type of girl I could see myself with . During my break up with my ex it got wild since we had been on and off for 7 yrs , since we were 15 n 14 I was 22 when I started talking with my current girl and had just turned 23 once I finally left her.
Anyways I was trying to break up wit her and let her down as easy as I could I told her I found someone else cuz I had been going out n staying out for hours for the last couple weeks maybe last month . It basically ended with me getting a couple felony charges and spending 5 months in jail , only reason was because she brought up a video of me with a firearm that we took a year prior that I completely forgot she had unfortunately , only showed that video because at that point I told the cops I just wanted to get away from my girl and she wasn’t handling the break up well and they kept pressing for info and trying to see if it got physical and I ended up folding and telling them that she was pushing and trying to break my stuff and ruin clothes and such . And so they went and told her she was gonna get arrested unless she told her side and she made a bunch of stuff up , over exaggerated the whole situation and said I pointed a gun at her n then she was able to find that video to show them . I had videos of her yelling and threatening to kill / punch me in the face an actually getting physical so that’s why I only had to do 5 months .
So my current girls sister dated a DA in our county snd I think my girl ended up telling her parents what was going on because for a while her sister and her parents didn’t like me . Her sister said she was too good for me and some other rude things but she has became nicer these days , feelings were hurt so it’s difficult to see past that n don’t know how to act even though she tries to be nice and sweet or whatever . Her parents tho even being told about my ex and shown the videos of her acting crazy still don’t seem to like me or even want to meet me , I don’t want to meet them very much either . I also worked in oil fields for a bit since I had gotten off probation the first time , forgot to mention I was previously convicted for a felony drug charge when I was 18 for being in wrong place wrong time and having my own stuff , I was young and dumb . So I had that going for a bit but had to go back to my old moving job while waiting for sentence and I was doing that for a bit now that I got out but I’ve went to trade school n applied for carpenters union to get a career going . Never throughout the 2 yrs have they wanted to meet me or even speak to me . They have pre conceived notions of people like me (felons) , really anybody that has been in trouble with the law are like bad people to them . Which I totally understand thinking that I’m not a good person or whatever but I’ve treated her with nothing but love and take care of her since she had crohns . Obviously she knows I’m not actually ever going to hit her , my last relationship was very complicated and I could’ve beat the domestic charges if the gun wasn’t retrieved and if ex didn’t show the video .
Sorry for such a long story , I’ve never really been on Reddit for advice like this . Anyways I just don’t know what to do , I’m glad her sister has had a slight change of heart and treats me better but I want to be accepted by her parents also . My exes parents both loved me , it just makes me feel really bad and I don’t know how to change how they feel or like what I can even do to make a good impression . Also not like it matters but I’m sure in their eyes it does , I grew up like pretty poor you could say . First generation immigrant family so I guess I didn’t have as much structure in my life as she did , she grew up as a rich girl and always going on vacations for weeks at a time every year at least 1 time . I know they want someone good for their daughter but I am actively trying to start a career to be able to provide for us we want to get married and start a family . I almost feel like embarrassed / shame when I think about how much they will judge me if and when I do meet them . Saying I work at moving company just feels embarrassing enough as it is but I thought I could be in the oil fields for a while longer so I never tried to get into a union or start a trade here at home . And also I guess if they ask more personal questions I’m gonna feel awkward telling them about how home life was as a kid or whatever if they ask what my parents do for work . My girl has told me they are very judgmental people and I can tell just from how I’ve heard them speak over the phone . If anyone has had similar situation please give me some help to know the best way to handle first impressions or how to even start building relationship with them . Again sorry for such a long story , sorry if some stuff is pointless info but just thought some back story was needed to understand fully . Thank you if you stuck around , any help is welcome . Please don’t be mean I’ve already felt shitty enough about this whole situation and everything else