I don't know how to stop needing correctness and precision
If there are instructions or someone says something where things don't add up exactly, I get disoriented and confused. For example, my mother said "I knew after I woke up that it wouldn't be a good day." I interpret everything very literally and I thought she meant as soon as she woke up, she felt physically or emotionally unwell. I asked her if that's what she meant and she said "No, I meant after I woke up, I had a conflict with you, and that ruined my day." She laughed contemptuously and sneered, then said, "Is that clear enough for you? Do you have to correct me even on Mother's Day?"
My intent was not to correct her; I was genuinely confused as to what she meant. This happens to me all the time in different settings. The literal meaning of something doesn't add up, which confuses and dysregulates me to a great extent, and then when I seek clarity, the other person thinks I'm correcting them and resents it. I get so dysregulated when things don't all add up and make sense in my mind, so I do not know how to stop myself from seeking clarity. How do I stop myself from seeking clarity when I'm really confused by the literal interpretation of what someone else said?