F24 is starting to feel like a mental drag on me M21, is my lack of understanding hindering me to love properly?
( We are long distance currently but knew each other in person for around 10 months before this ) We haven’t been together long but we’ve know each other for almost a year , now that we have gotten closer some things about her just don’t feel right sometimes . She will say stuff like “ all men are the problem “ and when I try to say combat it turns to this statical lecture that I just sit thru cause statistically she’s not wrong but me pointing out the good bunch just makes me feel selfish . She also is very snappy at times “ wtf are you talking about “ “ men are so stupid “ if I say something that dosent make sense, but honestly I see when I didn’t care about what I would say the convos were fluid and it was a lot less of that . Nowadays I could be on the phone with her , and she will say the usual “ I don’t like this about myself “ or “ I’m so ( aggravated )” and I don’t know how to respond , I’m a physical lover and a man of few words so when she says these things I feel like I’m put on the spot and if I don’t say anything then I’m part of the problem . I’m naturally very animated and I find myself toning it down around her so it’s like I’m being fake . But yea things like giving out compliments when needed and showing love has been hard for me , since I didn’t have parents to look to for that or much girlfriends . So all in all are FT convos is like this , we small talk , silence , she says something that troubles her , I either get stuck or say something that either makes it worse or just dosent make sense on her end so she gives me the usual gritty response back , I either ignore it and change the subject or something random or apologize depending on how mad she sounds and the cycle repeats . Oh and …. She says this “ you hate me phrase “ ( in a sad more younger stature voice ) a lot depending on what I do and it’s so crushing Cause I DONT , But it leaves me questioning if I do . Like why do I feel like I’m stepping on eggshells all the time , I’ve had this in my first longest relationship so idk if this is just a normal thing or I know how to pick them wrong , any advice helps …. Just be real with me cheif