Me 28M and my Sister 33F are having a huge fight and things are messy. She abandoned her child at 2 months old with my mother and stated she could not care for him. My nephew lived with our mom for over 4 years on and off with her being in and out of his life usure if she wanted him. As of last year she decided to take him on full time, she now has another child who is 7 months old with another man.
Recently she has been unsure of where she wants to be so she left her son again with my mother and then he stayed with me for a few days while she left out of state. She was very unclear on what day she would be back and not sure when she would be getting him. I also have to mention I am married and have 2 small babies of my own 1 and half and 4 month old. I told her she needed to be here for her son because he has no stability and no structure. The kid is 5 and cannot count to 10 or say his ABCs. She took him out of school and he has not returned she also gives him poor nutrition and allows him to watch whatever he feels like on a phone because when she does have him she rather not deal with him. She also has at this point abandoned her 7 month old in Mexico and does not have a plan or means to retrieve him. She does not have his or his other brother’s documentation social security card, birth certificates, etc.
I told her today she needs to step up and be here for her sons and care for them the right way because they need guidance and a caring parent. She posted all this on social media and tried to call me out to her little following she has to seek validation from strangers and people who she barely knows. She also runs an illegal salon through her rented studio apartment. These poor babies have to smell and be around the chemicals while she does her so called “job”. She does not want to truly care for their well being I feel at this point. Is it wrong of me that I told her to be a mom and stop disregarding her children.