How to handle narc mother?
Hey, My name is Grace, Im 17. I need help on how to deal with my narcissistic mother. Its been like this since I was 13. For context, I have a younger brother, M16. And she makes it extremely evident who her favorite is. She always posts him in social media, barely ever gets mad at him, etc. Me on the other hand, my mom has had this resentment towards me that shes never tried to hide. I dont know what it is. I cant possibly do anything to even try helping or repair our relationship. Everytime my mom talks to me its either to yell at me or tell me to do something for her. Shes never thought she was in the wrong a single time. I dont think Ive had a genuine conversation with her in at last five years. And whenever I try to communicate my feelings, my mom shuts it off and tells me to stop making it about me, then proceeds to make it about herself, and always cuts me off or grounds me. Im almost 18.
My brother doesnt make it any easier. He always gets my mom more angry. Whenever I get yelled at, he purposely steps into the arguement and sides with my mom even when shes completely in the wrong. And I cant ever tell him to stop or else my mom will beat the shit out of me. Last night, my mom was yelling at me for not doing my laundry. I kept apologizing and I said “yes ma’am” which my mom found no problem with until my brother said i was trying to be sarcastic (i was not.) which my mom then got angry about it, dragged me by my hair to my room and my brother watched. I dont want help on how to fix HER. Im moving out soon anyway, I need help on how to handle HER. If there is any way I can, please send me advice. Absolutely anything helps. 🙏