Don’t immediately want visitors- will i regret it?
I’m due in a month, and my parents are asking about visiting baby in the hospital & staying to help. But right now, i’m fully wanting just my partner, myself, and my doula at the hospital, and no visitors for the first 24 hours so i can heal and bond with my baby. i also want my first night home with her to be just us so we can adjust as a family.
but my dad is insistent on being at the hospital while i’m in labor because “that’s just what you do!” and “we’re here to see the baby not you” (don’t even get me started on that).
my mom wants to come stay and help the first few nights, but i’m hoping to EBF, and told her i would prefer her to stay and help when my partner has to go back to work on long shifts after the first month. she’s adamant that i’ll need the most help the first few nights.
am i being ridiculous for not wanting this?? will i regret not taking help the first few days? i want them to meet her as soon as they can obviously, but i don’t want to feel like im hosting while so freshly postpartum. i just want to get settled in a routine with my baby before everyone gets involved.