Hello! I am in desperate need of recommendations for good shorts to wear specifically while bouldering!
I am not a fan of bike shorts on me and I find that the length and fit of so many athletic shorts don’t account for bouldering. I don’t want my butt out while on a boulder hehe.
My gym gets so hot in summer so I’d love to find a good pair of shorts 😄
Hi this is my first post here :D I am recently diagnosed (ADHD 2 years ago and autism this year)
I am always exhausted. I spoke to my therapist about this today. I’m a manager at a coffee shop.
I am a very controlling person (not of other people) but of my environment, which is why I have to be a manager lol.
I must have everything a certain way but it takes a lot of brain power to keep that up because of my ADHD getting in the way. I call it my brain tug of war, because it feels like I’m somehow always working against myself.
I only hang out with my boyfriend (he is also AUDHD!!!!). He is my comfort person and has helped me tremendously. I want friends but I’ve had so many bad falling outs (I am not the most reliable I admit. There have also been many instances of me being misunderstood for reasons I don’t even understand.) Friendships are hard. I’ve just never been able to sustain them and at this point I don’t even try to make friends or hang out with people.
I’ve had a particularly hard time lately. Unmasking has helped in many ways, especially with social anxiety. I spent my whole life trying to fit in but now at 25 I have accepted that I am weird and that’s ok because I like myself and other people don’t have to (wow who knew). But now that I have unmasked, I’ve found I feel exhausted in a different way. Like I got so used to hiding myself, now that I’m free it feels more limiting. Suppressing my traits had negative consequences, but it was predictable. I’m not used to allowing myself to be the way I am I think.
My therapist asked me if things feel so draining because I assign them a narrative of being draining. I tried to explain that I assign them as draining because they are? Because they always have been. She said to try to look at it differently but I’m not really sure what she means and I don’t feel like it helped much.
I want to have my energy back instead of napping and lying down all day after work. Maybe I need a job where I don’t have to socialize so much.
Idk guys. I am not sure if I even gave you enough information or if any of this makes sense. Does anyone else relate ? Do you have tips?