u/GoodVibes_5597

I F(29) am dating this guy, and he M(40) is showing true effort in the relationship. I grew up very sheltered, and confused and I’m still avery confused adult. There are some things I don’t like about him, but of course everyone has their flaws. I’m not sure if I should tell him, I’m afraid he will choose the other path, but I keep reminding myself I’m not scared to be alone… it’s just the heartbreak that comes with it that I’m afraid of, If things don’t work well. I want to settle down and marry soon, kids or no kids. I am just sick of being alone while I watch my friends and family all marry and have children. But he’s shorter than me and I also try not to, but I worry about what people think. I’m trying to let go of my pride and ego and remember that even though he may be out of my league, I’m out of his league in other ways. He’s taught me so much, but I don’t know what I can bring to the table for him. I grew up in an abusive home where I feel like a burden, so sometimes I don’t know if I’m worthy enough or enough to be that person for someone else. I’m in my healing era and I need some advice. He’s telling me I need to decide on whether I want to be with him or not, and I’m unsure of it, but I think it’s because I’m scared of any possible outcome, and especially commitment. Please help.