Relevant backstory: few months ago I posted on “Off My Chest” about an ex husband of a friend who was now sliding into my DMs. I was frustrated because I had been getting a lot of sexual harassment from different areas of my life. Men at work, men in friend circles, random men on the street and my friends ex husband was the final straw. I had had men want to “hug me”, touch me, tell me I am beautiful and try to kiss me. I am 40, and when I complained people joked that I “still had it” and shouldn’t be complaining.
I did write a rant. I did. I was fed up and emotional. My friends ex is a leech. I knew he hoped I would blow up my marriage so I could pay his way and get back at his ex in the same move. I knew I was a pawn in his game but I refused to play.
Then something happened. This guy went through my history and started accusing me of being a lonely and bitter woman. That I only ever posted on reddit to complain (true) and that I clearly hated my parents for no reason. That they didn’t deserve my anger. That clearly I am the issue if all my relationships are like this. I did laugh a lot of this off, and did bait him for hours to keep going. Cause by that stage I wanted to fight a man. And he stepped up stupidly.
He skipped over all the bits about starvation and neglect but went on about how my parents were doing their best. That he was glad I was LC cause they shouldn’t have to put up with me. It was timely cause it helped remind me that when I was younger and complained of sexual harassment or assaults too, they would always defend the man. That I should accept it as a compliment.. blah blah blah. That I was full of myself etc.
Its taken me months of processing before coming here and posting what happened. I know I am not alone on this sub. I have felt so seen and heard here on this anon platform. I just wanted to share. And also say if this happens to you, please let me know. Always happy to fight on your behalf if you feel you cant.