Just venting because I am tired of my husband. My husband [30M] and I [30F] got married young and we have been together for almost 14 years. Over the majority of our relationship he has kind of forced me into this traditional role of cooking, cleaning, and raising kids. We have 4 kids now so our life is crazy. But he will constantly complain if our house is messy, if I don’t have meals ready for him, and if his laundry is not done. But he never helps at all. He has maybe done the dishes once in the last year, never does his laundry, never gives his kids a bath, it’s always all on me.
I was a stay at home mom for a year and it was okay…but then it was almost like he controlled every dollar I spent because “he was the provider” and I had the privilege of staying home.
I have a very good work ethic and I’ve had a job since I was 13 so I genuinely love working. Fast forward to today, I’m buying my own building. I’m starting a business. And my husband has been very weird, possessive, and even more rude to me since this. It’s like all he wants me to do is stay home and not be successful. Speaking of success, he doubts me on everything I do and is the least supportive person in my life.
I really just think there is more to my life than being a mom. Don’t get me wrong, I absolutely love my kids and I am obsessed with them, but I want to build something and be creative and successful outside of them home. I am a good mom, good cook, and good little homemaker. But I don’t want that to be my identity. I want to have a purpose outside of the home and let’s be real, make a lot of money. But I think just the thought of that scares my husband.