u/Good-Figure-3222

My brother (17 male) was raped by another man, 16-17, I’m not quite sure. They are both still in highschool and my brother has decided to not press charges. I feel awful and I’m still grieving over the fact this has happened to him, obviously no one should have to go through SA. He doesn’t want to tell anyone outside immediate family, not even his friends who are friends of the rapist. I don’t know, I feel like I should do something, because it doesn’t sit right with me to do absolutely nothing. The rapist is on the track team of our school, and I’ve been thinking about reporting him, but I’m unsure if this will lead down a rabbit hole that will eventually lead to court. I’m genuinely at a loss. Should I tell my brothers friends? The police? the school? Should I try ruining the rapists reputation? I have no idea, and I don’t even know what to do to console him. He has a tendency to act nonchalant about big things like this (repressing his emotions). It doesn’t even seem like he’s upset at all, but I know he must be. If you were SA’d, please tell me if this stuff sticks with you even if you act like it doesn’t bother you. Sorry, I know I’m asking a lot of questions, but it would be extremely helpful if someone could give me some good advice, thank you.