u/Gone_Antiquing

I’m petite 5ft and starting weight was 110lb. My friend who is very tall said she didn’t start showing until 5 months. However, I have a short torso. Any short people show early?

FTM with a December due date which means the Holiday's are not far behind. That includes the usual Holiday parties and traditions. My anxiety is already stirring.

My sister in law is due to have her baby any day now. A cousin on that side of the family recently had a baby as well. So each of their babies will be about a year and 6 months old by the time our baby arrives. Each time we announce our pregnancy to family, my in laws, grandparents, and family on the other side they have all said "its going to be a busy Christmas day/season with all these babies at gatherings". Meanwhile, my family has already acknowledged and told me to avoid parties and that they'd come visit.

I have started to explain as we go that I'm not even sure we'll make it to any gatherings and I'd rather just stay home considering our baby will only be 2 weeks old. There is always someone who is sick on my in-laws side of the family and they never give a heads up..we'll just be standing there and someone casually says "oh yeah they have a sore throat stay away".

Because of this pattern, I'm eager to stay away this year and opt out of all holiday gatherings. I've already hinted that 'our door will be open Christmas day if anyone wants to stop' by AKA we're not about to show up at their house with a 2 week old if someone is sick.

When I mentioned this yesterday, my sister in laws response was "well, the baby is going to always get sick you can't avoid it - especially once they start daycare." To which I responded, "well I don't want to be dealing with that 2 weeks postpartum if I don't have to so we probably won't be going to that party"

I can already tell my in laws are going to be upset with since both my sister in laws 2 kids including the newborn will be at all these events with her cousins baby. Not to mention actual Christmas day at my in-laws (which is usually just immediate family)..we usually go there in the afternoon then head to my parents at night. This year I know will be totally different. Trying to drive that point home is not getting across.

I just don't think its a good idea where the baby won't be vaccinated...they just don't see it that way. I don't even know how I'll be feeling by the time Christmas rolls around. My husband is somewhere in the middle and doesn't completely agree with me which makes me anxious. I think once the baby gets here and the nurses advise us on best practices he will change his tune. But until then he keeps telling me to wait and see what happens.

Has anyone else been experiencing the same thing?

I'm a little over 9 weeks and anxiously trying to plan out my schedule for the next few months. I've told a few close clients on the side, but I need to let the others know soon. Is 10 weeks too early? We already had our first ultrasound and everything looks great.

Just wondering if I should wait until our 12-13 week 1st trimester screening appt?

Edit: I’m a photographer