Ghosted I guess?
I (40 F) recently got back into dating and had an experience that left me genuinely confused.
I matched with a guy (M 45). We’re both coparenting with our exes. I’ve been divorced for about two years, and he’s currently separated but living apart for around two years while waiting for his divorce to be finalized.
We texted for about two weeks before meeting. It wasn’t constant texting, just thoughtful conversations about personality, goals, parenting, and how our days were going. It didn’t feel overwhelming.
We went on a date yesterday and it honestly went really well. He greeted me with a hug before we even went into the restaurant. He was upbeat, attentive, and engaged, asking questions, listening, and sharing about himself. It felt easy and mutual. After dinner, he offered to drive me home, told me he had a really great time, and said he would like to see me again. I told him I felt the same. When he dropped me off, he asked for another hug and I gave it.
A few hours later, he texted me again saying he had a really good time and asked again if I would like to see him. I replied quickly and said yes, I had a great time too and would like to see him again.
Now here’s where I’m confused.
Today I didn’t hear anything from him. In the afternoon, I sent a simple message letting him know I’m available Saturday if that works for him. It’s now nighttime and he hasn’t responded at all.
I’m trying to understand how someone can come across so interested both in person and over text and then just go quiet like that. Is this just normal dating behavior now? Would you assume low interest at this point or is it too soon to tell?