u/GodfatherALT

My brother and his wife are going on a camping trip from Friday to Monday with their friends (let's call them Couple A). Yesterday, my brother came over, and while he was leaving with his wife and our parents, he asked the group: **"Hey, can you guys help us out by going over to feed our dog while we're gone?"**

I want to emphasize that **I stayed completely silent.** I didn't say a word because, honestly, I had no interest in doing it. My parents, however, spoke up and said yes.

This morning, I woke up to this text from the wife of Couple A:

*"Hey! How’s it going? So, [Brother] told me you’d be going over to feed his dog. I wanted to ask if you could also feed our 5 dogs? We’ll leave the food ready, they only eat once a day!"*

**Here is the context:** The last time I stepped foot in their house was a year ago, but only because I had visited their hlme days prior and they live about 5 minutes from where my brother lives, which all was within route from were I previously work. Now, Couple A, they have five dogs, and at least three of them are the type that will likely bite if a stranger walks in.

After the message, I immediately messaged my brother telling him to cut it out. I never agreed to anything yesterday, I literally stayed silent while my parents agreed, and now he’s saddling me with the responsibility of five dogs that don’t know me and definitely don't remember the guy who fed them once 12 months ago. One of the dogs is literally FN BLIND.

I also told him it was bold of him to assume I was "available" and that he should have asked me privately before offering my services to his friends.

Later today, upon arriving from work, I found out the friend had already dropped off her keys at my house with a list of "instructions" that were absolutely insane. It was basically: *"Dog 1 will growl at you, just pull his ear. Kick Dog 4 so Dog 3 doesn't bite you. Jump over Dog 5 while he's biting Dog 2, but don't let Dog 3 out, and take the food away from Dog 4 because Dog 1 eats first."*

When I saw that nonsense, I lost it. My dad asked, "Wait, why are *you* doing this if you don't even know those dogs?" I explained that my brother volunteered me behind my back. My dad then sent my brother a very blunt message telling him he was out of line.

Now my brother is throwing a massive tantrum because he and his friend had to find last-minute replacements. My mom is also angry with me because I "caused an inconvenience" in her golden son's life.

Now some context on why I am mad:

**Logistics:** I don't even live or work near that area anymore. Last year it was on my way home; now, I’d have to go completely out of my way (he lives about 35 - 60 minutes from my house depending on traffic), just to deal with a Rottweiler (my brother’s) and a pack of 5 semi-aggressive strangers.
**Consent:** I stayed silent. I never said yes.
**The Ask:** Helping my brother with one dog is one thing. Helping his friends (who I am not close with) with five aggressive dogs is a massive, dangerous favor.
**The "Favor Balance":** My brother has done nothing for me in years, I can't remember the last favor I asked from him. The scale is completely tipped to him cus he constantly asks stuff and money from me, and I'm tired of being the default helper.

So, AITA for standing my ground and refusing to be a "surprise" dog sitter?

Here we go again