u/Glittering_War3061

I went to a Christian college and a man I knew from college went on to become a well known and successful person (I am going to be intentionally vague), and I had fond memories of him and always wondered what happened to him. This morning I googled his name to see where he was living now because I think he moved to my city. I found out some things I did not want to know and now I am sad. I get that nobody is perfect but he has done some crimes repeatedly. I have been sad about this all day.

I was friends with a woman for 20 years but it was mentally draining and she had a lot of problems. For example, After I first met her when I was in my 20s, she would call me up to ten times a day. She started stalking me when I started pulling away from her about ten years into our friendship. About 3 years ago I made the decision to unfriend her and block her on Facebook after I moved away. I wanted to get her out of my system and no longer allow her access to my life.

Last night she made an appearance in my dream. I almost wonder if she mentally did this somehow on purpose. It was so strange. She is the last person I'd want in my dreams.

I made arrangements to meet someone who does math tutoring. She said to be at her house, gave the address of her home and time to be there. I show up with my son. Ring the doorbell. She doesn't answer. Ring again. No answer. I thought I heard a voice inside and dogs barking. So I messaged her on Facebook and tried to call her. She did not pick up. Then she sent me a message through Facebook asking me to change our tutoring session to "online". I told her fine but I had already driven out there. Then she said she'd rather do it at a different location than her house. At that point I just said forget this. I had been standing on her porch too long, she wasn't coming to open the door and I felt stupid so I left. Then a few minutes later she messages me saying I should have known that the location she wanted to meet at was not her home. However, the only location and address she gave me was her home address. I literally followed the instructions she gave me. I asked how I would have known otherwise. She seemed to believe I could have just guessed or something.

I encounter this all the time. People seem to think I can guess that what they say might not be what they really mean.

If I agree to volunteer at an event, they sign me up, I get there and they say they have enough people already, to go home. Would it be okay to ask them to reimburse me for gas expenses incurred in driving there? I already cancelled other things so I could volunteer and feel let down that I get there and they say just go home.