Am I the asshole for dropping him as a friend and not apology for the message(last 3 images) I sent him? (TL:DR) Him extreme flaky almost costed me my job.
BTW I'm dyslexic. For context, I (FtM21) don't have a car or license due to family issues back when I was trying to learn how to drive. When I started college in Fall 2024, I met a group of people who I really clicked with. For now we'll just call them Carmen (F20), Leo (FtM20), and River (NB20). Leo before starting college had a fiance who we'll call Copper (NB18). Leo, River, and Copper got together towards the end of Fall 2024. We were all really close and had a lot of fun together then summer hit and 2 of them(Leo and River) ghosted us (Carmen and I). Leo, River, and Copper broke up because of mental health reasons and Leo not being very responsive.
Soon River let us all know that they won't be coming back to college but would try to keep in touch. Once the 2025 fall semester started I was looking for a job while I was in school. I finally got one at Taco Bell in November but didn't have a ride. My plan was to walk or ride my bike to and from work since it was only about 30 minutes on foot and 15 on the bike.
Leo offered to take me. He's always been bad at phone calls saying it gives him really bad anxiety. We all respected that and texted him instead of calling. The issue is that he was also bad at answering our texts so I was hesitant on letting him take me but accepted anyways.
As time went on he started asking for gas money, totally understandable, and I was willing to pay him. He started to become flaky. Not showing up to pick me up on time or just not showing up at all once my shift was over. I also understand I was working late hours usually 4 or 5 to 11 or 12. So I gave him a lot of grace and many chances. One day, he just never showed up to pick me up to take me to work then didn't show up to take me back to my dorm that same night. No call no text nothing until the next day when I told him I didn't work then asked why he didn't pick me up. He told me he didn't see the message on snap and he fell asleep early. Again I understand because we were all dealing with a lot mentally those few months.
Eventually it got to a point where I told him he had to start answering his text messages because people were dependent on him. I also wasn't the only person who he had done this to. Several times he left Carmen to walk to and from the highschool, since she was observing, which was about 45 minutes away from campus walking distance. He would repeatedly not respond to people's text or he would only respond to Carmen. He would continue to apologize to us and we would forgive him because he was our friend. He never let anyone know when he was or wasn't in town even though he knew people were relying on him.
It got to a point where I would have to walk home as an AFAB who looked very feminine in the dark. Also due to a back injury I had in 10th and 11th grade walking for a long time hurts and sometimes after I can't stand for long which doesn't help when I work fast food and don't have breaks because of a new policy. He never really showed any concern for my safety either of the times this has happened and never apologized to me just told Carmen to tell me he was sorry. Eventually, he didn't pick me up at 3:30 like he said he would and I was late because I didn't start walking till 3:40 and I was supposed to be at work at 4.
He did offer to give me rides back and forth. My messages was confirming time and location.
I've had others come up to me or text me saying I'm wrong for what I did and I should apologize. I shouldn't have said anything about his exes but other than that Am I The Asshole?