u/Glittering-Club-6778

I feel so frustrated, I moved In with my boyfriend 7 months ago, before he lived on his own renting and I lived with my parents. We are both on alright income, I am self employed earning around 30-35k a year and my partner earns 45k, out rent is 975 pound and we split in 50/50. Before we moved in together, I didn't pay anything living at home and he paid over 1000k alone.. so since he's moved In with me he's saving a lot of money because I go halves with rent now, so he's better off. Since moving in with him, all he does is worrying about spending money, and not having money and saving, he keeps saying we should stay in and not do anything for a few months to build wealth.. saying we have no money... I told him we are fine with money all bills are paid, we are able to save and go places its a balance - I am very much a free spirit the thought of staying in for even a full month dreads to me, I love going out doing things living life. He is the opposite he loves staying home and playing video games, being on his computer an introvert. I keep telling him we are find with money, he saves over 500 a month and I save too and I still go out places, sometimes he comes with me or others I go with other people as he doesnt want to go out all the time.

It is starting to get me down though him always stressing about money and worrying and getting at me saying I need to stay in more and stop spending money, that I have no work ambition and no goals.... I work pretty much everyday, I am a virtual assistant and work with 7 different clients daily my brain never switches off.. I dont know how he can say I have no ambition, surly I deserve to go places on weekends, he keeps pushing me to work more and make more money... I say to him we are fine at the moment, I will find more clients but its all about balance... I want to live life too not just always work... and then he says that shouldn't what life is all about going out all the time.

I don't know what to say or do... everytime I try mention we are good with money, he's even better off since moving in with me, but he doesnt understand and starts getting angry saying we dont have any money and we need more money and that I need to work harder too....

It will end up getting me down as to me as long as we have money to pay bills, and go out and do things (which we do) that's all that matters I don't need to work myself to death to be a millionaire. He really does have the mindset of stay in work hard for few years then when older we can enjoy it... on the other hand I don't want to waste my life staying in ahhhhhh. I was before in a relationship for 5 years with someone who complained about going out and controlled me and I ended up leaving them in the end as I was drained and felt restricted.

Feel like he's very tight with money!!!

Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year and we live together for around 7 months now. We get on really good, he is more an introvert and loves staying in gaming and has one friend he games with, sees his dad once a month and isn't very close to his mum but still sees her every few months. I've noticed he can be quiet in social settings even with just me, but at home he's loud, loving, energetic and very talkative person with me.

The last two times we have gone to see my mum and step dad my mum has mentioned to me she thinks he has been very quiet.

We saw them for my birthday meal and awards my mum messaged me saying are me and him OK and that he was very quiet. She also said I always have a home there...

This has made me feel so paranoid, like doesn't she think he's the one for me? I thought he did talk a bit that night, he wasn't rude, just he can be quiet even with his own family and other people he met???

I've asked him to talk more and he did I thought he did too but then my mum said he's been very quiet.

Then the about her asking if we are OK and I have a home their if needed always.

Ahhh it's made me so paranoid and now in my head questioning things.