Losing contact with age gap siblings after cutting off narcissist parents
In short, I am the second oldest of six kids. One is my full sibling, the rest are half. My older brother cut our dad off years ago. My full brother is still underage, but because I have a good relationship with our mom I have no issues talking to him. I then have three young, half siblings from my dad and stepmom. There’s a 20 year age gap between me and the youngest.
Mother‘s Day I decided would be the day I stop communication with my dad and stepmom. I’ve always had issues with my narc dad, but my stepmom is a whole new level of narc. In the conflict that resulted… I was told I no longer am allowed to have contact with my three youngest.
Most people I know with age gap siblings don’t have close relationships with those siblings. But living in that house growing up, I took a very protective and maternal role over them. We are extremely close. That could be in part why they made that decision, considering they have even said multiple times that they wish I was their mom. At school events when they come to greet us after a performance, they run past their mom and straight to me.
Im having a really difficult time coping with this. I love these kids as if they were my own. Has anyone been in a similar situation? I can’t stop worrying that they’ll forget me one day or have resentment towards me for leaving while they had to stay. I could really use some advice.