I want a sanity check.
Last week, in a 1:1 with my manager, I raised that my project had been moved to a man on the team without consultation. I said it directly. I had specific dates. I said "this is the third time this has happened in the last year and I want to talk about the pattern."
My manager listened. Nodded. Agreed that it had happened. Apologized. Said he would "handle it going forward."
This morning the same project (different scope, but the same project, same customer) was assigned to the same man, in a public Slack channel, without me being mentioned even once.
I went back and re-read the 1:1 I had with my manager. I had taken notes (because of course). My notes say the conversation happened. He acknowledged the pattern. He apologized.
But also. Maybe I imagined how clear I was. Maybe my notes are not the same as what he heard. Maybe my apology-radar is calibrated wrong. Maybe his "handle it going forward" meant something I am not understanding. Maybe.
I am asking because I cannot tell anymore whether I am observing a pattern or constructing one. I have been at this company three years and the part that scares me is the gaslight floor under my feet. It is real, but I cannot prove it is real, and the more I try to prove it the more it slides.
If anyone here has been here, please tell me. Not "you're not imagining it." Tell me what helped you trust your own observations again.