u/Glass-Kangaroo-5182

A couple of months ago, I was really close with this one friend. We used to spend time together and talk almost everyday. Now, they’ve moved onto other friends and I feel left behind.

For context, this person used to communicate with me a lot and initiate a lot of the conversation over text and in person. Over time, I started to take longer and longer to respond to her as my class schedule got busier. I also didn’t feel compelled to answer her messages right away, but I don’t know why. I loved being her friend and she is one of the most thoughtful people I know. I didn’t not want to text her, but something in me didn’t respond to her texts. I sent a long winded text to her explaining that I wasn’t in the right headspace and apologized for being a bad communicator. They seemed really confused and unsure as to why I was worrying so much about it, which makes me wonder if it was all in my head and I was the only one who felt it was making in our relationship not as close.

I’m left grappling with my emotions, knowing that we’ll never go back to the way it was before. I feel really envious when I see them with other people, wishing we could talk more often or have deep talks. But we haven’t in weeks (when we used to have them almost every day), and I’m wondering what I should do? Is cutting off the friendship a good idea? I don’t want to be left thinking about all the good times we had and always thinking about it when I’m around them. What should I do?

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u/Glass-Kangaroo-5182 — 9 days ago

1 Year Friend Advice

Hi! I have concerns about my relationship with one of my friends. I feel like we were really close around two months ago, but I started to get really insecure. I have this tendency to push people away when they’re getting to close, as I’m scared they’ll see that I’m boring and won’t want to hang out with me anymore. I feel afraid and like I’m never good enough. I also wasn’t really responding to her texts, so I sent a long winded apology explaining that I was feeling jealous and overwhelmed. Nothing has really improved though, and I feel like my anxiety and depression has only gotten worse. I feel scared to reach out to her again and explain what I’m feeling, and I don’t want to get in the way of what she’s already formed without me, as she’s already found other people to hang out with. I feel like I would just be a burden if I told her, or don’t even know if she’ll understand where I’m coming from. I’m even wondering if I should just cut off the friendship. I’m just scared and I have mental breakdowns every day. I feel so alone and weak and stupid. I don’t know what to do.

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u/Glass-Kangaroo-5182 — 16 days ago

Hi! I have concerns about my relationship with one of my friends. I feel like we were really close around two months ago, but I started to get really insecure. I have this tendency to push people away when they’re getting to close, as I’m scared they’ll see that I’m boring and won’t want to hang out with me anymore. I feel afraid and like I’m never good enough. I also wasn’t really responding to her texts, so I sent a long winded apology explaining that I was feeling jealous and overwhelmed. Nothing has really improved though, and I feel like my anxiety and depression has only gotten worse. I feel scared to reach out to her again and explain what I’m feeling, and I don’t want to get in the way of what she’s already formed without me, as she’s already found other people to hang out with. I feel like I would just be a burden if I told her, or don’t even know if she’ll understand where I’m coming from. I’m even wondering if I should just cut off the friendship. I’m just scared and I have mental breakdowns every day. I feel so alone and weak and stupid. I don’t know what to do.

TLDR: feeling imposter syndrome and worried about losing friendship because scared of closeness, don’t know what to do with friendship

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u/Glass-Kangaroo-5182 — 16 days ago