Both in our early 30s, together for 5 years. [M]y [F]iancé rarely fucks me. What I mean is, when we end up having sex, 95% of the time, I do everything. How can I bring this up delicately?
TL:DR, fiance is a pillow princess and I'd like for her to fuck me instead of my fucking her. How to bring it up without hurting her feelings?
I've searched some posts, and what I've found is that my situation isn't unique. Many men end up having pillow princesses. When we have sex, I work hard to make sure she orgasms first. We have a cock ring vibrator and a wedge pillow; between those 2 things, she orgasms probably 80% of the time. Then she flips over, and I finish doing doggy. There was once that I orgasmed before her, and I was telling her how I wanted to make her cum, and she said: "Then make me come." I've been thinking about saying the same thing back to her after I make her orgasm and she ask about mine.
She came from a conservative household where sex was a taboo topic. So I've been very patient for her to open up and get freaky. She'll say I make her freaky/sexual, but I guess we have 2 different definitions.
I might I get a blowjob thrice a year? For my birthday this year, I went down on HER. I didn't mind, because I've been chomping at the bit to go down on her, she was on her period leading up to it, but still. I want to be satisfied. I want a random, out-of-nowhere blowjob to completion.
I'm starting to have some resentments. It's to the point where I'm considering having sex for her satisfaction. If I cum in the process, great, but if not, then I can take care of myself.
What is the sex dynamic in y'alls relationships? How many of y'all have a partner who is on the receiving end most of the time? Ideally, both parties have a good time and end up orgasming, but when you end up having sex, whose satisfaction do you focus on? Your own or your partners'?