u/Glad_Plan1144

The biggest mistake I made when I first moved was waiting for friendships to just happen naturally. I'd go to one event, feel awkward, and leave. Nothing stuck.

What actually worked was something much simpler:

1. Find 3 places where the same people show up regularly (café, gym class, library) 2. Show up consistently — same time, same place, weekly 3. Start tiny conversations — not to make friends, just to be remembered 4. Follow up within 72 hours — most friendships die because nobody follows up

That's it. No huge social events. No apps. No forcing anything.

What's been the hardest part of making friends after moving for you?

The biggest mistake I made when I first moved was waiting for friendships to just happen naturally. I'd go to one event, feel awkward, and leave. Nothing stuck.

What actually worked was something much simpler:

1. Find 3 places where the same people show up regularly (café, gym class, library) 2. Show up consistently — same time, same place, weekly 3. Start tiny conversations — not to make friends, just to be remembered 4. Follow up within 72 hours — most friendships die because nobody follows up

That's it. No huge social events. No apps. No forcing anything.

What's been the hardest part of making friends after moving for you?

The biggest mistake I made when I first moved was waiting for friendships to just happen naturally. I'd go to one event, feel awkward, and leave. Nothing stuck.

What actually worked was something much simpler:

1. Find 3 places where the same people show up regularly (café, gym class, library) 2. Show up consistently — same time, same place, weekly 3. Start tiny conversations — not to make friends, just to be remembered 4. Follow up within 72 hours — most friendships die because nobody follows up

That's it. No huge social events. No apps. No forcing anything.

What's been the hardest part of making friends after moving for you?